With recruitment coming up for some schools, and with freshmen beginning to start a new chapter of their lives at college, I thought it might be a good idea to explain what it means when you accept a bid. We’ve all heard and seen the stereotypes of sororities in magazines, in movies, and on television, but what I bet you didn’t know is that you just made one of the most important decisions of your life. Sororities are not like what is depicted in the media. In fact, sororities are more than what the media shows because Greek women rise above the stereotypes. Don’t believe me? I promise you will in time. It might not be the day after bid day, it might not be after your first year of college is over, but by the time you’re about to graduate, you’ll realize how important your sisters were to you throughout your college journey. You’ll also realize how your sorority has positively influenced your life and your choices over the years, and how important your sisters will be to you in the future.
Accepting a bid means you become a part of something bigger than yourself. It means you are giving a piece of you to your chapter, and you are leaving your mark so that someday other women with the privilege of being in your position will follow in your footsteps. You are agreeing to help make the world a better place via community service and philanthropy events. You are agreeing to grow as a person and become the absolute best version of yourself. I bet you didn’t know a small piece of paper with your name on it had so much of an impact on your life!
When you accept your bid you will take on various leadership positions within your sorority. You will do things you had no idea you were capable of! When I joined AST my first year of college I would have never pictured myself as president. I didn’t think I had the leadership abilities that were required of such a big position. Little did I know, being president was one of the best things that has ever happened to me because it showed me that I can be a leader. My sisters had so much faith in me and encouraged me to take on positions with big responsibilities. You will reach your full potential in your organization, and your sisters will be there to help you reach it every step of the way.
Accepting your bid means learning to place others before yourself. When your sister needs you at 2 am, you’ll realize there is nowhere in the world you would rather be than by her side. Accepting your bid means learning what true friendship is, and learning what it feels like to create lifelong friendships. The day you’ll realize this is when you’re saying your vows on your wedding day as your sisters are right there beside you as your bridal party. Accepting your bid means learning to respect yourself and others, and being in a sorority will teach you how to come to solutions, even during a difficult disagreement. I won’t sit here and sugar-coat the idea that you will not get frustrated with your sisters sometimes, but I can promise you that you will always work through it and see past your differences. You will learn to see things from another person’s perspective, and you will learn to look at the world through the eyes of someone else. You’ll become a problem-solver, a big who will mentor your little, a little who will look up to your big, a best friend, a leader, and a philanthropist. Best of all, you’ll learn to be most of those things within weeks of joining your organization.
If there is any advice that I could give to any sorority woman, both older sisters and new members, it would be to make the most out of being in your chapter. I remember the older sisters in my chapter telling me to enjoy my time with the sorority because college flies by, and now here I am as a senior, and I can’t believe I am in their position saying this to younger sisters. I say all of this from experience, and there are no words to express how thankful I am for my sorority and my sisters. Always remember to forgive each other, love each other unconditionally, have each other’s backs, and have fun! These are the things that sororities are all about, and these are the reasons why we join, why we stay, and why we proudly wear our letters across our chests.