10 Things Every 20 Year Old Needs To Hear

When I was 10, I thought I’d be married and a mom by my early-to-mid 20’s. Wow, was I wrong. Now being 20 (and 11 days) I am very sure that a wedding and children do not fit into my next-5-year-plan. I’m still learning to love myself, let alone anyone else. I can barely take care of myself, I certainly cannot take care of a baby 24/7. Don’t panic if you’re in the same boat! We are young. We have plenty of time to find Mr. Right and make the perfect life for a bundle of joy - just not any time soon!

1. You don’t have to know what you’re doing with your life.

It might feel like everyone is getting so old and figuring their lives out but the truth is everyone is just as confused as you are, I promise! You have so much time to figure yourself out and then everything else will fall into place eventually, don’t stress.

2. You have so much more time to have fun.

At 30, MAYBE you should slow it down a little but you are still young, even if you don’t feel like it! Go out and have a good time!

3. You definitely do not need to be in love or thinking about marriage.

It’s okay if you are in love and planning on getting married, it’s also okay if you fall in love again next week and plan out that wedding too. It’s also more than okay to have no feelings or plans of marriage at all. YOU DO YOU, AT YOUR OWN PACE.

4. Do not hate yourself.

There is more than enough hate in this world and you hating yourself is not worth it. As the very famous Hannah Montana once said, “Everybody has those days” cause “Nobody’s Perfect!” which is so true and we are not reminded of this enough. We are allowed to eat a bag of Flamin’ Hot Cheetos in one sitting and we’re allowed to not eat at all one day and you’re still going to wake up the next day beautiful and perfect. Love yourself above all other things.

5. Your grades in college definitely do not define you.

Failing an exam or a quiz or even an entire class is not the end of the world. Luckily, you get second chances when it comes to classes. And no one is going to judge you for not having a perfect 4.0 GPA.

6. Celebrate your wins!

If you are doing well in classes or at work or in personal relationships then give yourself some credit and celebrate! Whether it’s with a bottle of wine or a cookie you deserve to remind yourself how awesome you are. It’ll be good for your mental health and also encourage you to do well more often to celebrate more small wins.

7. Love your family.

Everyone has different ideas about what family is, but whether you choose to look at your friends that way or your blood family or the people who raised you, you owe them all of the love in your heart. For shaping you into who you are and for always being there for you no matter what. Love them unconditionally, even when they make mistakes, they would do the same for you.

8. We’re only human.

Whoever put it in your head that mistakes were bad things was seriously wrong. Mistakes are just steps in the learning process. And we’re young and we are supposed to make mistakes to learn how to be better in the future.

9. Find people who let you be yourself and never let them go.

I can tell you from experience that your mental well-being is affected by the people you surround yourself with. I have found my best friends at home and at school and they mesh so well together that it’s just even more proof that they are so wonderful for me! They let me be me and they love me for who I am and for that I love them.

10. Do what makes you happy and don’t give one shit what other people think about it.

Your happiness should be your first priority, ALWAYS. If something makes you happy then who cares what anyone else thinks about it.

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