From the moment I decided that I was going to go through recruitment, I’ve been questioned, scolded, warned, laughed at, and sometimes taken less seriously as an individual. I understand that Greek life is not everyone’s cup of tea, but Greek life is more openly criticized than any other organization or group on a college campus. I’m writing this article on behalf of all sorority women who are tired of hearing the same criticism all the time. Here are the top three things (though I could talk about many more), that are often used to bash sorority life, as well as my respectful yet whole-hearted disagreement.
- “The sorority you get a bid from is based on looks.” I can personally attest to the fact that this one is false. During recruitment this past winter, it was in the mid-thirties and raining. Needless to say, my hair was not exactly on point. When I mentioned this to a girl in a different chapter during one round, she said, “Why would you ever want to be in a sorority that cared about your hair getting rained on anyways?”. That genuinely stuck with me. Then, during preference round at TriDelta, the person I was talking to let me keep my coat and sweatpants on because I was absolutely freezing (Shout out to Kim!). The only thing that a true sisterhood looks at is how well you would mesh with other girls in the chapter, how consistent your values are to the values of the sorority, and your overall character.
- “You’re paying for your friends.” This is my personal favorite to tear down. I am not paying for my friends, I am paying to support the organization I hold very dear. My friends are my friends because we genuinely love each other and have a great time together. I could drop out of my chapter tomorrow and I would still have the same friends. Does paying your college tuition and then making friends at said college mean you’re paying for your friends as well? The money I pay is a small amount compared to what I get out of this organization. These women will be the ones to pick me up when I’m down, to see me walk down the aisle, and to support me through every triumph and downfall along the way. To quote one of my beloved sisters, “If I paid for my friends, I surely didn’t pay enough”.
- “I’m just not the ‘sorority girl’ type.” Do me a favor and tell me what the sorority girl type is, exactly. I know from personal experience that chapters are made up of a diverse group of individuals. My chapter has everyone from neuroscience majors to fashion majors, girls who play club sports to girls who have never played a sport in their lives, shy girls to girls who have never met a stranger, and everything in-between. The idea of a sorority girl perpetuated by pop culture is not what is required to be in a sorority. Whats required is to be yourself.