One of the truest quotes I have ever read states: “if you can’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to love you.” Although this quote might seem harsh at first, the meaning behind it is so very real. In a society where we are told to look a certain way or dress a certain style, it is so, so, SO important to stay true to yourself and love yourself for who you really are… no matter the opinions of others. With that being said, I thought I would share some tips on self-confidence and how to become the best version of yourself!
Okay, so if you know me I usually save my best tip for last, but in this case I just had to put it first. One of my favorite quotes (and I love so many quotes) is “comparison is the thief of joy.” I have found that nothing positive hardly ever comes out comparing yourself to others. Most of the time affects your life in a very negative way. I am a firm believer in “being your best self,” or in better words becoming the best version of YOU. What someone else lacks in, you may excel in and what you lack in, someone else might excel in. I believe that we were all put on this earth with a God-given gift, and it is very important to realize that God gave each one of us particular gifts and talents…meaning that we all were not given the same exact gift. When you begin to realize and appreciate your strengths, your weaknesses and imperfections will become less and less noticeable to you.
TIP: Each morning or evening, write down on a slip of paper something you love about yourself. Whether it be your hair, smile, laugh, style, or personality, write it down and put the piece of paper in a little jar. Just think that after about two weeks, you will have written down 14 things you love about yourself! Keep that jar in a nearby place so you can pull out all the things you love about yourself on the days you are feeling down.
It took me a long, long time to realize this, but I just find it crazy how we think buying a certain amount of make-up or clothes will make us love ourselves. Don’t get me wrong, I love my Urban Decay makeup palettes and my closet is at its capacity with all of my clothes..but that is not the stuff that makes me love myself. I have found that if you can love yourself when you are at your bare minimum, then you can love yourself at anytime. Here recently, I have been trying to wear less makeup on a day to day basis. It is at times when I am not decked out in a stylish outfit with a face full of makeup when I realized my inner beauty. Discovering your inner beauty is so very important because inner beauty shines from within, making your outer beauty even more noticeable!
TIP: Plan a day to go without wearing makeup. Too much for you? Then plan a day where you eliminate one element of your makeup. Whether it be eyeliner, mascara, or foundation, see if you can go without one of these elements for a day. Like I previously stated, minimizing your outer beauty makes you realize the inner beauty that is deep inside of you!
Let me tell you where self-confidence is not found: inside the walls you have confined yourself. With that being said, will stepping outside of your comfort zone lead you to immense happiness and love for yourself? Not always. BUT, nine times out of ten, stepping outside of your comfort zone allows you to truly experience the world around you and helps you to learn things about yourself you would have never discovered had you not stepped out of your comfort zone. New places, new people, and new experiences can all be huge factors in helping you determine your self worth
TIP: Try something new each day! Whether it be a new food, a new nail color, or a applying for a job you think you have a zero chance of getting, just trying something you never pictured yourself trying. To make it even better, keep a small journal of each of your new experiences and keep record of how the new experience helped you.
Last but certainly not least, surround yourself with positive people. It baffles me how people expect a positive lifestyle while surrounding themselves with negative people. Although you might not believe this, the people you surround yourself with most definitely rub off on you. It is YOUR decision as to whether you surround yourself with people who influence your life positively or negatively. If you’re reading this thinking that you are surrounded by a negative circle, find new friends! This world is full of people, and trust me when I say that there are positive, uplifting people out there.
TIP: Compliment or do a good deed for one of your friends. I can almost guarantee that not only will you feel better about yourself after doing it, but it will spark a circle of positivity amongst your friend group.
At the end of the day, loving yourself is a process. This is definitely not an experience that will happen overnight, but there are small steps you can begin to take in order to help you realize your self worth.
Ultimately, YOU are in control of your own life, and I know you are fully capable of loving yourself and truly becoming the best version of you. I hope this article finds you a little more confident in yourself and that you will continue to build yourself up and surround yourself with those who encourage you and love you for who you really are.