I wish I could say that there was some type of magic formula used to find the right sorority for you, but the truth is there isn’t. The secret is that there isn’t a secret at all. I like to tell this personal experience story because I feel like so many others can apply it to their situation or their experience going through recruitment.
I come from a family of people who were Greek in their college years. Going Greek is something I’ve wanted to do from a very young age, I’m talking like age 7 when I had an actually understand of what a sorority was. My sister (my biological one) and I are 16 years apart in age so while she was in college I was about 4 or 5 years old. She was a founder of a chapter of a sorority on my university’s campus, making me a legacy to that particular sorority. As the years went on and it came time for me to choose a university, I had absolutely no intention of ending up where I am now.
My university was on the very bottom of my list, mainly because it’s so close to my hometown. However, as the cards played out, SVSU is where I accepted my scholarship and started my college career. My main focus, honestly, was going Greek. Definitely not what my main goal should have been but I was 18 and unsatisfied with my choice in university. I was also narrow-minded and only wanted to go out for my legacy sorority. I tried way too hard to make my dreams a reality. I expected that I would be handed letters and that there would be minimal effort required. I went through two different recruitment periods for my legacy sorority, a fall and a winter session my freshman year. I ultimately just did not feel that I fit the mold.
What I learned from this experience was that not everything is always as it seems. Everyone is different, regardless of if your mom and your sister were part of the same sorority, you might not be the perfect fit for that organization. There is absolutely nothing wrong with keeping your options open. Especially because every chapter of every organization is so different. I say this because, again, every person is different so while each chapter of an organization strives for the same goals and upholds the same values, the personalities of each chapter’s members will be different. I was sure that I would never find my “home” and that I would never have the chance to experience going Greek. My university is small in comparison to a big ten university or SEC schools. Our Greek community consists of 2 NPC sororities, 1 NPC affiliated sorority (KTE), 3 IFC fraternities, and 1 IFC colony so it wasn’t completely outrageous for me to think I would never find my home. However, I was completely wrong. The second semester of my second year I was encouraged to check out a local sorority called Kappa Tau Epsilon. I had literally no idea what a local sorority even was or why I should even bother checking it out. Moral of the story, almost four years later I’m happier than I could have ever imagined myself being as an active member of KTE.
If you think there’s a recipe to finding your home, there really isn’t. You have to go in with an open mind and be willing to accept the option you least expect. You’ll know you found the right chapter for you when you walk into the room or house filled with girls and you immediately feel like you’ve known them all for years. Good luck to everyone this semester as they go through recruitment or welcome home PNMs!