What Friendship Really Means: Friendship is Duty

Joining a sorority turned out to be an opportunity for me to learn very quickly how to deal with people as well as conflict in a way that was mature and beneficial for both parties. It is easy to get lost in the idea of sisterhood, especially when it seems like you just made two hundred friends. It can be overwhelming at times. You watch yourself grow up with these women and realize what a life-skills gold mind you’re sitting on because these people can not only love you, but also teach you how to be the best version of yourself possible.

I do not hang out with the exact same people I did freshman year. I don’t have the clique that held me down so much in high school. Part of growing up in the Greek system taught me how to let the little things go, but an even bigger part taught me that it is my duty to bring my sisters up every way that I can. It is my duty to constructively criticize them when they need to hear it. We aren’t going to get along with everyone we meet, but our sisters can teach us how to make the most out of every relationship established before and after collegiate life.

Loyalty is a value I hold deep inside. For my friends there is nothing I wouldn’t do. Phi Mu taught me what I should expect of myself and what I should do to aid everyone around me when it comes to reaching their values. All my sisters are different. We have various interests, talents, and even morals. I’ve taken something from each of them. On the nights I wouldn’t stop crying, I learned what it meant to give myself away in service. On the nights I was elated to be alive, I wrote down what I was thankful for in that moment. If finding yourself is number one, then number two has to be having that responsibility within yourself to shape those around you into women our world needs.

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