Hello, my name is Tori Cotnoir and I am what some may call, a “hipster.” It has been a long, hard journey to come to terms with this, but I have accepted it. I don’t wear Vineyard Vines, Lilly Pulitzer and Tory Burch all in one outfit. I’m more of an American Apparel crop top, Levi’s high-waisted denim shorts, and a pair of Doc Martens kind of gal.
The thing is, some of the same people who consider me to be a hipster, may not ever consider the possibility of me being a sorority woman as well. Oh, how misconceptions are alive and well regarding Greek Life. To be fair, I was one of the many who assumed that in order to be in a sorority, I had to wear overpriced clothing that is honestly sometimes just a regular old t-shirt with a smirking whale on it. Whereas there is nothing wrong with wanting to wear clothing like this at all, there is nothing wrong with not wanting to wear clothing like this while either considering recruitment, or while being an active member of a sorority.
A lot of girls share this misconception that you have to be the same as everyone else in order to get a bid from a sorority. I am here to tell you that this is one hundred percent false. In fact, one of the best things you can do when going through recruitment is to be yourself. Show off your amazing qualities! Most of the time, unique character traits are exactly what can benefit a chapter.
When I went through recruitment last Spring, I desperately tried to wear what I thought would best match the girls I had seen walking around campus previously. I researched how to act, what to say, what kind of makeup is best and even how to pronounce certain words correctly just out of fear of showing any sign that I was different from the girls in the myriad of sororities I talked to. However, It wasn’t until after the end of round two (skit day for High Point) that I realized I was doing recruitment completely wrong.
I entered the Phi Mu house and had a conversation with a girl who was wearing the same thing as everyone else until she brought up style and fashion. I was a little nervous to be honest with her, for I wasn’t sure if my style was perceived as “cool” or not. As I was debating whether or not to open up, the sister I was talking to opened up to me and confessed that she never wore the typical sorority styles and wasn’t a huge fan of them.
I came back to the Phi Mu house on our final round and this time I wore exactly what I wanted to wear. I went to both of the houses that invited me back for preference night and only worried about how I felt about myself.
Somehow, it worked. The amount of compliments I received was incredible. All of the self-doubt I had the past week was made up in that one night, and at that point I knew I was making the right decision to go greek.
So here is my public service announcement to anyone who doesn’t feel like they match the photos and videos they see on Total Sorority Move: please don’t get discouraged by stereotypes. Not all girls are the same and not all sororities are the same. Being yourself is something you’ve been most likely been taught to do all of your life so far, but it truly becomes applicable when deciding to go greek and the process of recruitment.
Again, my name is Tori Cotnoir and I am what some may call, a “hipster.” My name is Tori Cotnoir and I am also in a sorority that shapes me into a better woman each day. My name is Tori Cotnoir and I am in a sorority that allows me to be myself and encourages me to do so.