Relationships

TrueLife: I Was In An Abusive Relationship

Hi friends, I know on here a lot of us talk about beauty tips and what sorority life is like, the thing is sometimes we have to get serious and talk about real serious issues. Domestic violence. As a woman with strong views and values when it comes to women’s rights and domestic violence trust me when I say those strong views do not help you as much as you think it would when you are in that relationship. I guess I should tell my story.

Every relationship I have been in has been violent or abusive in some way. This past relationship was possibly the worst. We dated 10 months exactly and during that relationship he put his hands on me more than 10 times. This last time was the worst. He trashed my bedroom, he pulled my hair, slapped my face, and cops were called. I was so tired of being the punching bag that I decided to fight back. I cannot say whether or not fighting back was the right choice. Some girls would say kudos you stood up for yourself others would say that’s a dumb choice because he could have decided to really hurt me. The thing is he had already really hurt me; he hurt me physically, emotionally, and mentally. After the cops were called a no contact was filed and we can no longer speak. Obviously the relationship is over.

I stayed with a sister that night and she urged that I try to move forward with my life and even seek help. In this moment I realized how important sisterhood is. My sister was there for me when no one else was, she listened to me cry and gave sisterly advice when necessary. At that moment I realized joining greek life was the most amazing decision I could have ever made.

The best advice my sister gave was to go see the counseling center.

I decided to follow her advice and go to the counseling center for help. I talked to someone and I started to feel better knowing that I was able to get it all out. I was able to talk about my past abuse in my childhood and current trauma with my now ex-boyfriend.

The thing is you all might just think that I decided to write this whole personal blog to make myself feel better but there is a real issue that I am trying to address. Domestic violence is a real problem in today’s society. Women across the country and even across the world are living in fear of being abused by their husbands, boyfriends, fathers, uncles, etc. Women across the country are dying at the hands of their abusers. I am here to stand up and insist that if any of my readers are being abused, have a friend who is being abused I urge them to seek help. I urge you to stand up for yourself and for other women. As women lets band together to end domestic violence. If you are being abused and you’re able to get out of the relationship seek help. Go to your campus health center or counseling center to find a professional to talk to. Reach out to your sisters because they care about you and your health. Keep your family and friends close. I wish all of you safe and happy lives and realize that you are strong, you are beautiful.

I survived and you can too. I love you all.

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