I am the first to admit that I am a hopeless romantic. I love all those rom-coms and sappy love quotes; I get (metaphorical) heart eyes when I hear the adorable, sappy stories from my not-so-single friends; I dream about, plan out, and daydream about my future wedding and my future family. However, I have never been in a real relationship. So trust me when I say I know what the best and the worst parts of being single are - and there’s a lot of them, so buckle up.
Being single is truly a beautiful thing.
- It means I’m free. Free to go out with my girlfriends on the weekends and not worry about if I’m upsetting a boy. Free to hang out with anyone I want without worrying about someone being jealous. Free to be me.
- It means if I want to stay in on a Friday night, in my pajamas, eating Doritos and ice cream, and binge watch Grey’s Anatomy on Netflix, I 100% can. And no one will think differently of me. Not one person. Actually, no one will probably ever know. And that is fabulous.
- It means I have had the last 18 years to truly learn who I am, who I want to be, and what is important in my life. I have learned what it means to really fall in love with myself before anyone else can.
- It means I have become whole all by myself. Yes, I believe that there is someone out there who is my soulmate, who is meant to be with me forever. But I do not need anyone else to complete me, I am complete all on my own.
- It means I have learned the definition of dancing on your own and enjoying it. And I mean this in the metaphorical and the literal sense.
- It means I know exactly what I deserve and I am not afraid to wait for that person who exceeds all of my expectations. And after 18 years of the single life, I’m not about to start settling now.
- It means I never have to worry about getting that “we need to talk” text, or eating my feelings after a breakup. Sure, I do plenty of eating my other feelings, but never breakup ones.
- It means that flirting with that cute guy at the donut shop is always acceptable. Or the cute guy at Starbucks. Or basically any cute guy. There’s no holding back. I get to flirt away. No matter how awkward I am when it comes to actually flirting.
- It means I get to plan my wedding on Pinterest as much as my heart desires, and never worry about freaking a guy out. I get to plan every little detail, down to what dress my flower girl will be wearing as she walks down the aisle before me, without the worry that a boyfriend will get scared and run.
- It means that I get to order an entire Domino’s Pizza (plus cheesy bread of course) at 11pm on a Tuesday night and not be judged or have to share with anyone at all. Aka the best reason for being single.
But being single can also be hard
- I have to sit and listen to all of my friends tell stories about their cute relationships and act like I’m so super happy for them every single time. And most of the time, I genuinely am happy. But on the rare occasion that I’m not, it becomes tiring to have to pretend and fake a smile.
- Like I said earlier, I’m incredibly awkward when it comes to flirting. I blame part of that on the fact that I’ve never consistently had someone to flirt with, so my learning has been spotty to say the least. So it always makes actually flirting with a perspective guy that much harder, therefore making my chances of ever not being single that much slimmer.
- I don’t have adorable couple pictures of my own to post on Instagram. Enough said.
And that’s about the negatives of being single summed up.
Relationships are usually a sensitive subject, especially for a college girl. However, I am here to tell you - equipped with a detailed list - it is extremely obvious that the benefits of being single significantly outweigh the downsides. So to all my single ladies out there - enjoy it!! Learn to love yourself, eat a whole pizza or two, watch 10 seasons of your show in one night, and don’t worry about boys! We are young, we are beautiful, we are free - but it won’t always be that way, so love it while it lasts. Be happy, be single, be you!